We often hear people talk about their βcircle of friends,β celebrating the importance of having a strong, supportive network. But have you ever paused to consider whether your circle and your corner are the same? After careful reflection, Iβve come to realize theyβre not. Letβs unpack the difference.
Your Circle
Your circle is the group of people who surround you in your day-to-day life. These could be your coworkers, acquaintances, social media friends, or even people who share common interests with you. Your circle grows and evolves as you move through life, and while these relationships can be valuable, thereβs often an unspoken element of reciprocity involved.
The truth about your circle is that it includes people who may need you more than you need them. Some are there because of what you bring to the tableβyour expertise, your energy, your kindness, or even your resources. While this isnβt inherently negative, it does mean that their presence in your life may be transactional. They show up when it benefits them, or when youβre able to fulfill a need they have.
Your Corner
On the other hand, the people in your corner are different. These are the individuals who stand with you no matter what. Theyβre not concerned with what you can do for them; theyβre invested in you.
The people in your corner show up during your darkest moments and celebrate your brightest. Theyβre the ones who support your growth, even if it means you outgrow them. They encourage you to chase your dreams, protect your peace, and remind you of your worth. Their loyalty is unwavering, and their presence is genuine.
While your circle can be large, your corner is often smallβand thatβs okay. Itβs about quality, not quantity.
How to Tell the Difference
Here are a few nuggets to help you distinguish between your circle and your corner:
- Motivation for Connection
Someone in your circle is likely motivated by what they can gain from the relationship.
Someone in your corner is motivated by genuine care for your well-being. - Presence During Hard Times
Your circle may shrink when youβre facing challenges.
Your corner will stand firm, offering support without judgment. - Reactions to Your Success
Your circle might cheer for you, but sometimes with hidden envy or self-interest.
Your corner will celebrate wholeheartedly, without comparison or resentment. - The Test of Time
Your circle may change as your circumstances change.
Your corner remains consistent, no matter where life takes you.
Why It Matters
Understanding the difference between your circle and your corner is crucial for protecting your energy and fostering meaningful connections. Life is too short to invest heavily in relationships that donβt reciprocate your value.
Take inventory of the people in your life. Who shows up when it matters most? Who listens without expecting anything in return? These are the people who belong in your corner.
Folks, your circle is important, but your corner is sacred. Cherish the ones who uplift you, believe in you, and stand with you through thick and thin. And remember, just as you want others in your corner, be intentional about being that kind of person for someone else.
So, whoβs in your corner? Take a moment to reflect, and when you find them, hold on tight. After all, theyβre the ones who truly matter.
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(c) Michelle-Nichola Cockburn
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